Friday, December 18, 2009

You and Me

I have been looking for you
But everytime I thought I found you
it so turned out that it was only me

Other day, I saw someone sulking
and I thought, I found you
But, it so turned out that it was only me

When I saw that little child enjoying on the swing
I thought, I found you
But, it so turned out that it was only me

This morning, when I confronted that arrogant person
I thought, I found you
But, it so turned out that it was only me!

Every other person I saw who was
Jealous, righteous, loving, caring, selfish, generous and what not
I thought, I found you
But, it so turned out every time that it was only me!

I am so desperately looking for you that is not me
Where are you?
Are you there?
Or is it just me?
I think you are all screwed up.
Or, is it me?

- Musten Jiruwala

Tuesday, December 15, 2009

Walk a Mile

Love makes you walk a mile in your loved one's shoes. Seldom its a comfortable mile.

Monday, December 14, 2009

Unspoken Wishes

A little surprise party on a birthday or an anniversary. A small note of appreciation. A gift of new expensive watch. A surprise vacation plan. These are some of the unspoken wishes one has. Its an acid-test for my loved ones. I set this unspoken wish to be an indication of their love and care towards me. If they(loved ones) do it, I feel they care for me. If they don't (regardless of countless other things they do for my joy), I feel that they don't love me/they don't care for me.

Ofcourse, I would feel hurt and let down if they don't do it. So, I rub it in. I tell them my expectation after the event has passed. And express my hurt. This way, all they can feel is guilt. Do I get pleasure out of it? No! But, why should I feel the pain alone? At least, next time they will know what is expected of them on such occasions, if they really love me, care for me.

So called "wise" people say that, "You must express what you want", "You must be a demand on your loved ones", "You must respect their choice after they know what your wish is". Rubbish, I say! They should know what is expected of them. Why do I have to mention it?

I know very well that its a double edged sword. If they do it, I would feel ecstatic! If they don't, I would feel let down and depressed. If I say it, there will be no fun, no thrill. Yeah. For a while, I would feel miserable and unloved (and enjoy their attention ;-))

Monday, October 12, 2009


Context that you operate from gives you the perception of the person. This perception is responsible for the way you behave with that person. When you change your context, that same person will appear different to you.

Tuesday, October 06, 2009


Stress is caused by fear of change or desire to change.
Fear of change causes resistance to change while desire to change causes resistance to the present.
Both results in resistance and hence stress.

Thursday, August 20, 2009

God Exists!!

Ofcourse, God Exists!!! Afterall, God is created by man!

Let me just give you some out-of-box perspective on this...these are my thoughts only.

Existence of God is in the human mind. Human mind thrives on knowledge. Most part of this knowledge is aquired knowledge. Each one of us process this aquired knowledge and create new knowledge that we call our own. We all share this knowledge with others in varied quantities. Thus the knowledge spreads.

Psychology is a science of human mind. Sociology is science of human relationships or science of collective minds. The prophets and the saints who established religions were sociologists who understood collective human mind. They used the knowledge given by psychology to establish order in human relationship. They used two fundamental aspects of human behaviour, fear and desire, to bring order in human relationships.

The origin of God dates back to few thousand years when human beings were savage. They were organized in clans and they were warriors, hunters and farmers. It was a true jungle raaj where the might was right. (Not that things have changed much since then).

Human mind could overcome the fear of anything that could be projected in space and time, in other words, in conscious state of mind. So, there was a need to create fear in the sub-conscious state of mind. Thus, the image of super-natural, omnipresent, omnipotent, omniscent was created and was called God.

This fear was used to restrict people from doing things that caused harm to other individuals in the society.

This image of God, the super-natural, omnipresent, omnipotent, omniscent, was induced into sub-conscious state of mind by way of rituals, sermons, miraculous stories and creating some physical evidence (footprints, icons etc).

Thus, The God was created. First, as a fear to restrict people from doing harmful things.

Later, there were refinements after understanding more psychology. They understood that better results can be achieved by guiding or inspiring people to do something rather than restricting people from doing something. They saw that restrictions generally caused rebellion.

So, these refined sociologists used the desire and some imaginary places like heaven which is controlled by God to inspire people to do good things.

This God was shared thru generations in varied quantitites. Daily rituals, festivals and periodical sermons made sure that this image of God was kept alive in the sub-conscious mind.

Psychology, the science of human mind allowed the sociologists to create this image. Later on, the existence of god was explained by way of philosophy and metaphysics.

Yet, human mind never gives up violence. It can find ways and means to prove its might. Today, this human mind is trying to prove that their image of God is mightier than others. Muslims say Allah is mightier, Hindus say Bhagwan is mightier, Christians say, God is mightier. And, we find reason to fight.

Then we fight over the existence of God. Today, we call it faith. We defend this faith by saying that absence of proof is not proof of absence.

To conclude, God is a necessary 'evil' to keep human existence in check!

Philosophizing life

  • Love, Joy, Peace can travel greatest of the great distances at faster than the fastest speed in shortest of the short time. The only thing it cannot penetrate is thinner than the thinnest wall of arrogance, anger, lies and suspicion.
  • Demeaning and ridiculing others will elevate you fast and high on a bubble of false pride. Just that the bubble of false pride doesn't last too long.
  • The person on whom you fix the responsibility for things happening in your life becomes more powerful. For happenings in my life, I fix the responsibility on myself.
  • For you, it IS what it MEANS to you. Fact is, it doesn't mean anything. It is what it is.
  • I feel what I choose to feel.
  • I am learning to attach my perception with your feelings.
  • When you look at hurdles as problems, you avoid them. When you look at hurdles as opportunities, you overcome them.
  • if you can't appreciate something that you have, its better to lose it. if you are going to regret losing it, better appreciate it.
  • When I focus my energy on where I want my world to go, my world will not end up where I don't want it to go.
  • By nature, I am chaotic. Adapting myself to a system or a process is against my nature.
  • When the child in you dies, childishness will remain.
  • Maturity is to overcome childishness while remaining a child.
  • Ignoring myself often results in finding fault with others.
  • Friendship is free from all relationships. Only a relationship can be broken.
  • What, when, where, who, how gives you facts. Why gives you perceptions. Truth is beyond facts and perceptions.
  • When you want something or someone to change, be ready to deal with your frustration.
  • I dominate those against whom I feel weak and helpless.
  • Deeds matter. Dress doesn't.
  • Significance is merely in your perception, otherwise everything is mundane.
  • Failing after giving your best is a sign of bigger success.
  • Perception from conveniently altered past can brighten the future and diminish the present.